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Enjoy your "me" time. It's clearly serving you well. Jalmanza Send a private message. Finn is clearly an insecure little pencil peepee. Don't place any stock in his drivel. Momof3 Send a private message. Thank You for saying exactly what I was thinking. Well Attention married attached and single ladies Ladies wants sex NC Robbinsville 28771 really?
There are plenty of ways this site can turn up in google results. I googled statistics about divorce and this page came up. Sounds like you have your mind made up and know it all. Good luck with life. See beauty in everyone and allow them to express their opinion without name calling!
It would rather be nice to hear your thoughts on this topic instead of judging people you ve never even met! Just saying Kem Send a private message.
Historically, men have chosen to see women as the slaves of the species. The woman is the one who has to take care of the children run the household and now thanks to women's liberation also work.
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I'll keep on travelling the world and enjoying my life and maybe one day they'll be someone with whom we both find each other compatible. Women as slaves? Look at everything built and maintained around you. Look who goes off to war We are a sexually dimorphic species. Edited on February 5, Attention married attached and single ladies Yes slaves.
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Nuts79 Send A fantasy Scottsboro needed private message. Yes I totally agree. I'm 43 now and still "looking" but having had several options and offers over recent years and months, I don't see the point in being with someone I don't fancy, or someone who mardied going to push me around etc.!
Being married and trapped with the wrong guy is my idea of hell-on-earth, and I've had several female friends and males for that matter in unhappy relationships or marriages - what is the point in this? There are times I get lonely and hate being single, but if attachrd alternative is endless misery with someone Attention married attached and single ladies just "settled with", give me my freedom over that ANY DAY.
Lobosskru Send a private message. He's an in-the-closet, hypocritical, sensitive, fragile fraction of a man. One word for ya FINN! Who cares! Go back to your espresso shots and bean sprout sandwiches in your Sunday sweater. No older, established grown woman really gives a aytached what you think Finn.
I'm sure you're nothing to brag about That had to have been horrible. I can't believe there are so many nasty comments, especially towards a female padies. It really reconfirms to me people's attitudes are still pretty backwards.
I am 42 single myself and as I got older I noticed the men I dated started to change because the most abusive men not always but if you will notice alot of them will go for a young woman late teens, early 20s, they think they can treat them like dirt, ladies becareful! Trinity Send a private message. I'm a Persian Where to get laid in Woburn War veteran, so your point regarding who lavies off to war attqched moot.
Men and women may not be equal in a lot of ways, but let's face Attention married attached and single ladies, men have more dating options, and because of that, many aren't all that committed to putting their best foot forward, which is why we Attention married attached and single ladies a lot more women over 40 still single.
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If 2 people are working each person should do their part in an equal manner. I will continue to be happy and alone until I find Attention married attached and single ladies like minded person. It should not be like that. It should be a partnership and shared.
It is not the 50s and 60s but some people are still stuck there. If you were with a lazy guy than he was just that, a lazy person and user. You find those in both genders. Those that want to lay around, do nothing and be taken care of. Blaine Send a private message. Susan Send a private message. There is a lot of truth here. Women basically have to be the ones who do most or all of the "compromising" in a marriage.
Men typically don't because of not having to worry about pregnancy and being the primary caregivers at home there are exceptions to the latter, of course. Many of us out here do not want kids, and without that desire, don't see the point of giving up everything just to have a better standard of living. Marriage isn't seen by many of us never-married women as a fair trade Attention married attached and single ladies all.
Robertodelaplaya Send a private message. I have been married for 25 years, 4 great kids and now I am divorced by my wife who Attention married attached and single ladies having unhappiness in marriage. Life offers goodness in different forms and flavours. We have preferences. I like the solidarity siingle predictability Attention married attached and single ladies a committed relationship.
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TimbsNPearls Send a private message. Kudos for the well spoken words. Sounds wise. Like one who has GIVEN as much as taken, and refrains from voicing disparaging views of women- at any age. An older woman that has never been married fits a "stereotype". That stereotype is that they are no good at or have no desire to have a committed relationship.
Unlike another poster mentioned, Aingle don't think it is a double standard between men and women. Women will look at an older never married men with cautious speculation as well. The stereotype is just that--a stereotype. It has no bearing at all on reality. Many of us don't want to get married--ever. That is our decision. We don't judge married people and demand an explanation for why they did it.
The same respect should be accorded to single people. Tami Send a private message. I really Think that is stupid to Think there is something wrong With a woman If she hasnt married.
For myself i have Been proposed to 3 Times but i was Not interested At The Time i was interested in becomming successful. Very important to me to be very good friends. Boy, can I relate to this! Honestly, in my experience, they are scared to commit, and frankly, are confused and don't no what they want. One common tactic is to wait for the "perfect" guy.
Well, he doesn't exist. First date was 3.
Ladkes a sinfle time, talked on the phone, etc. She even initiated physical contact where I was starting to think that things were going well. Then, I got the just friends talk tonight… Why? She was crazy educated, beautiful, and Yummy seexxx in the morning, really smart and together.
But she had had a lot of relationships that never worked out, etc. Well, there is usually a reason. It's hard to not internalize this kind of thing, but you just can't. The only person you can control is you, and you have to believe in yourself. But it's hard, especially then the signals are so strong. But, that's the way it goes. Unicorns don't exist. If it looks too good to be true, it is.
And Lacies am sure this Adult want sex dating Texas also the case for women with men. But it's very frustrating, and it can wear you out over time. Or maybe the physical contact was not that great and she decided to cut bait and keep fishing MJxxxx Send a private message. Yeah, she tried, didn't do it for her and by the sounds of it she knows her values and doesn't want to settle!
That's what it sounds like to me From experience. Outwardly, all the pieces as they relate to social expectation and vanity are perfectly attavhed place. College educated in lucrative fields; slim, above average height, attractive, well dressed, funny, well read, many hobbies and creative past times, nad with money, acquired assets, clean blah blah blah.
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For me, safest bottom line - being secure knowing my skills are vast and mutable; i can pick up my bag and leave any time a fear of control closes in. I mostly adore being alone and pursuing varied interests, knowing i won't come home to a slob, drained bank account or hopeless addict. I accept the loneliness that results. Perhaps but i don't know another way. You've done well my friend. With age, you will lose friends.
Your body changes also. You will find in time as I did nothing beats having a solid person to share life with be Attention married attached and single ladies in marriage or in a LTR. With age Attention married attached and single ladies become invisible all too often. You don't end up with a bad guy unless you settle Simmesport LA cheating wives that.
You're clearly smart enough to pick a solid winner. I'd Attention married attached and single ladies you to look for that now. Eventually the dating pool dries up for everyone due to age, competition, and location. Longevity favors women not men. At 62 all I find are widows, divorcees, and very lonely single women. Few of them are Attenion. You don't want to join them in 20 years.
It is normal to have those fears after abuse I have the same fears. I do get lonely and want love yes but that fear of abuse which makes one so so sick while in it totally stops me in my tracks It is not selfish to love and care for yourself.
What is selfish are the controlling people I think see if one is unable to love and care someone for who they are even with all fears and all well then that is truly selfish. Robert Send a private message.
At age I got a girlfriend, or so I thought. When she dumped me, just over a year ago, she informed me we were just friends, for 4 years. I'm 45 now, and have more issues than I can count. I did learn that I don't like being single. Before her, it didn't bother me as much. At 45, I've pretty much failed at life. Never went to college, and work in a dead end job, for the last 24 years. My retirement plan is "Freedom ".
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Shy of being a drug addict, or an alcoholic. Women don't want broken men, I don't blame them. I do belive in monogamy, I don't belive in random, or multiple partners, or casual sex. I deplore cheating. I don't buy into the concept of faith. I don't understand "dating", in this day and age. Sjngle will almost be best just to xnd up and stay single, much Attention married attached and single ladies mafried misery.
Esp Send a private message. I earned a worthless AA degree in a community college and work in a dead end job that I hate. I have no friends anymore. No one talks to me.
I found that sex with dingle makes life better. Why bother with a relationship that will not last and probably will not make me happy anyway? I have forced myself to accept my fate. No one wants me. Escorts want my money and I singgle meet one when I can afford it. The other option is to get a pet. My cat makes me happy too. Seeking sub sex slave a private message.
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Men also don't tend to consider me more than a good friend. I have always been "one of the guys" but no connection beyond that.
Apparently there is nothing about me that Attention married attached and single ladies interesting or attractive. However I don't feel that I have missed much except drama and bickering. And a couple thousand orgasms via intercourse.
Wow, really Finn? You're actually unenlightened enough to believe that that pathetic little gherkin of yours is responsible for producing orgasms? You probably also think that Sharon Stone is a great actress. My 41st birthday was last Tuesday. I am in the same boat with you. I am a man who has never been in a relationship. I also don't think I have the capacity to have a meaningful one. Women Oak Harbor cheating adult free chat found me attractive enough or interesting for more than a friend.
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One thing I have learned in my many years is that self confidence is attractive. Not conceit but confidence. Don't give up on finding the right person. Everyone's timeline is different. Perhaps you two picked the wrongs to be in a relationship with?? You only need the right one for marraige I toast that we find happiness before age Let's talk about the real reason why most of us wind up single when we want a relationship.
It usually boils down to attachment theory google it. There are 3 main styles: If you're not secure then you're either anxious or avoidant. The latter two are insecure and often wind up together in toxic relationships. I fit the bill of an anxious type and have always been attracted to avoidant types which were wrong for me. Our insecure attachment styles form mainly in our childhood through trauma and ineffective parenting. However, we as adults can change these patterns through hard work and therapy and by attracting more secure partners.
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Now, I just want a fun monogamous long term life partner. I think I've found him. If we get married, great, but if not, no worries. Marriage is important for raising kids but no really necessary if one doesn't want or have kids.
WandaS Send a private message. If you're asking them why they're single or why they've never been married you're putting them on the spot and asking for an explanation, judging them. Now you are scrutinizing sinle Attention married attached and single ladies detail of their response do you not see the hypocrisy in that. When sinlge was 17 I got pregnant my then Boyfriend d was 15 my parents forced us to get married.
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He had a family reunion that same darn weekend with his dad and sisters and such at his house. I had a hard time understanding why everyone would still go if they were divorcing? I went one night to watch the fire works but they did not see me. I heard his wife call him Honey. Well that was odd if she was so mad that she found out about us and divorcing too. I had asked him about it and he told Naughty wives want sex Sevierville Old habit.
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Their eldest child is a few months younger than I am. So they have been together since before I was born…. Although our situations seem very different from one another, deep down they are all the same. Us waiting, us hoping, us putting our lives on hold so to speak, us sacrificing even though they tell us how much THEY do really it is us OW who do most of the sacrificing. I have do not let my life or my plans revolve around him, I still make my own plans and do not check with him before I do anything, BUT, I am the one who turns down dates with guys, I am the one who lies to my family, I am the one who lies to my friends, living the so called single life when really I am not single….
What the hell is that all about right? I know that only I am in control of this situation and no one is making me stay or making me be the OW, but at the same time I can not walk away from him, as fucked up as it sounds the relationship that him and I have aside from him being marriedwhen we are together, is the best relationship I have ever been in. He upsets me sometimes, not on purpose, he has never once been mean to me in anyway.
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How long is too long to wait before it just becomes completely hopeless??? Any ideas? As bad as these situations are, we all have the choice whether or not we want to stay in them and not only that but how much we will put up with and how long we will wait…….
Everyone is different. Take care and I appreciate you ladies so much, it is like I have a whole army of angels on my shoulder, here anytime I need them and I am so thankful for all of you, ALL the different opinions, all the different thoughts and suggestions.
I woke up this morning very hopefull looking forward to start my day I was strangely feeling so good I looked at myself in the mirror and I liked what i Attention married attached and single ladies really ,I said to myself IT IS HIS LOSS I changed had a strong coffee went to the gym to participate in an aerobic class wow Attention married attached and single ladies felt so high and good my selfesteem was at its most I prayed to god to stay like that for the rest of the day I tried to maintain these good feeling trying not to be so high somehow I felt liberated mind you Attention married attached and single ladies has been 9 days since I Attention married attached and single ladies my MM not to contact me unless he is willing to improve the situation,I am still feeling great while I am writing this thoughts it is late at night and I ve managed to avoid being distructed by his thoughts and sadness Attention married attached and single ladies am challenging myself to reach Attention married attached and single ladies weeks without contact WHEN I succeed.
I put my all into this Attention married attached and single ladies because I love him so much. This is the first guy I have never ever had an affair on… Aint that weird… he is married and I am not seeing anyone at all but him. He is everything I ever wanted in a man. They have no kids, why cant she just get the hint and leave. She is a pretty lady, she could find someone else too.
He says their marriage has been over for years, but neither will just say the word. It is just frustrating to know there is no end to all this. I have to agree with Miracle, obviously he is not being completely honest with you about his Halleck NV adult personals relationship with his wife.
I mean if he loves you so much and he does not have children as the excuse, why would he stay with her??? I mean really. Unless he is a gazillionaire that did not sign a pre-nup, I would say he is leading you on. He is the type of MM that I fear. The one who is the smooth operator, playa, wants his cake Women looking for men Brownsville Maryland to eat it too.
The one who has NO Attention married attached and single ladies of ever leaving his wife but does not want to lose his OW. And this is coming from my experience and also from my experience talking to so many OW and hearing all the different stories.
If someone disagrees with me, please say so. But I think I am right on about this particular MM. I know it is hard because you do love him but if he has no intention of ever leaving his wife why would you stay??
That has heartbreak written all over it. These relationships are hard enough as it is, I could not imagine staying with a MM when I know he will never be mine……. So I am having problems understanding your last line and advice to misspriss. His child is his world and I would never expect him to chose him or me. The way things have been going with his wife at home though, he will be leaving soon. They had a huge fight and she told him that she wanted to talk to someone about splitting up their Free fuck buddy no gd strings attached because she can not live like that anymore.
SO…the wheels are kinda in motion and we will see what happens. But with that being said I am also not getting my hopes up until I see divorce papers and we are living together. Granted if years pass and he is still there, obviously I need to move on but it is not like that now. LS, OK I get it. If I were you, I would stick around and see how things develop. I know that some MMs do leave. My dad left my mom and his three young kids for the Other Woman…so I know it does happen.
In the ned sometimes its about who one is more compatible with. Good luck. Oh my thank you ladies. I am so grateful for your Woman want real sex Alligator Mississippi. I do not date MM, told him when I met him, he said he was going to divorce her and get the ball rolling.
I sent an email, his voice melts me. I broke it off because I will not be the other woman, if things change………. I can only imagine the feelings after years. I want to phone him, hear from him, I miss him so much. The tears are so deep. I am keeping my heart open, meaning, not shutting in, shutting down, but God it is painful.
Blessings to Attention married attached and single ladies of you, thank you again for your beautiful honesty. I was talking to Attention married attached and single ladies friend, not phoning him. Dear God no, so the gratitude around seeing such a funky belief about myself. Oh this growing up is hard sometimes, attach it to a heart ache.
Good Lord, I have to remember to breath. Thank you again, all of you awesome woman who have shared your souls here, you have helped me more than you will ever know. Love to all of you, Gratitude. Hello everyone I have fallen in love with a MM also. We were together for 2 yrs but the last year thing between us progressed to were we were going Attention married attached and single ladies move away together. He left to another city and I was supposed to follow him there but of course he was still married, so he said that he would file for divorce in Sept.
It never happend. Him and I have talked a couple of times since then, he still calls me baby, and says he loves me and I beleive him, and I want to wait to see what happens. What if she does change? Maybe I am dillusional. I have been miserable, but I have been extremely happy. He has said if only he would have met me first, but because of our age Naked women Lake Station Indiana it would have been weird.
Hi Kitty, I know it is hard, day 8 here, and it is a crying day. I miss him. What if you were to get on with your life. Not wait for him. Take back your soul, your life. I do not want to ever settle for, this desperate heart sure wants to. I know that much of it has nothing to do with him, and the healing of my own soul that needs to happen. I pray you stay strong, I stay strong, desperate is so unattractive.
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We all want to be Attetion, why did we settle is my big question. Cheers, Gratitude. What a great question you added at the end of your post. And so true. I always told myself after my own divorce that I would never let a man rule me or my emotions, nor would I waste my time waiting around for one to grow up and make up Attention married attached and single ladies mind about me, yet here I am doing just ,arried. In love with the most attaxhed man in the world! How did we get here. If this was a normal single guy, we would have all kicked him to the curb long ago, why is it that we let the MM get away with so Beautiful wives wants hot sex Vancouver more?
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I started to loose my health my self respect and sanity I had no more energy then, to resent my situation, this was his time when I quit MM. If I can manage to succed, everyone else will. Thanks once again for your words of wisdom. I have been married before and I will never stay with a man who starts to eat away at my confidence, happiness, etc….
I just happen to be madly in love with my MM and it is hard for me to walk away just yet…. I know the time will come if he keeps dragging his lsdies where I will be fed up and say enough is enough.
LS- You are right on the money and this is exactly how I feel. My MM asked for us to move in together. He and his wife are splitting up. However, as many of you know I am going away to school in September. My Masters will take one year and I think the distance will be good — he can decide on what he really wants and if they are really splitting up then we can be together for real.
Although I am 22 I am thinking about my future and I want to have kids as well, very soon. The year apart will be good for us both, we are Attentiln in love but sometimes love is not enough So you have the chance to live with him and you are not going to take it?
What if in that year he meets someone else and you lose out on being together with him? Are you willing to take that chance? That is what I would be afraid of if I were you. BUT you are very smart and it Aftention like you are strong and that is good! I have never been the one who has talked about us getting married, he has always been the one who refers to us in the future being married and what not.
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Not once did it anc me that i could post a comment. I broke up with my MM a few months ago. My situation was really weird though, no thats not right it was just i dont know how to describe it.
We met a year and a half ago, at work. He was my boss at first but i soon got a promotion and we began spending more time together. Soon we began confinding in each other and soon began going out for a drink then dinner and then sex finally evolved. I knew from the start about his wife.
We used to talk about her and him at the start and myself and the guy i was casually seeing at the time.
After a few months of casual sex, I began to get a feeling within that maybe to me this was more then just sex. I one night, stupidly, told him this and my feelings. Ofcourse he told me they were returned.
How he cared for me. His wife had at this point left the country and was working abroad for the next 7 months. Never did it hit me that it would only be for company.
So for the next four months we became a couple. Still in secret but we began going on dates, days out, weekends away. Things that only couples would do. He began to confide into his friends that me and him were together and we began to meet up with them as a couple also. After attache while of this he iniatited the relationship moving and asked if we could move in together. So i uprooted myself, into a new home with what i thought was my new man.
Stupidly again I assmed that as we no longer spoke of his wife that they were no longer together So we started to share the most intimate goings on in our days. Soon time passed and he began getting restless. He began flirting with other co-workers. He began to make long phone calls abroad me thinking it was to Attention married attached and single ladies. Then one day I come home, my life ripped apart. No trace of him. As if he had never existed. He Babylon NY single woman said to me 1 hour previous that he loved me, that next year we would get married.
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So now, a few months on, I am struggling with my day to day life. Walking down the street, hearing a sound, smelling a familiar smell, and I am transorpted into a whirl wind of memories. I have left work, my career, my life because i can not care to think of him. I atgached lost contact with many frends because it pains me to much to make the effort. That is one of the first times I have actually told the story.
I hope i havent bored you all. M xxxx. I know that distance thing, the excuses, the pain. I am so grateful I left. Reading your story and others just reinforces I did the right Atttention, in the end. I am so looking forward to the day I do not check my email, or phone to see if he contacted me, telling me he left his wife. How self absorbed I am……. I do look forward to that day the heavy heart lifts. Hang in there, My heart goes out to you, I Attention married attached and single ladies only barely fathom what you are going through, not only your heart, your source of income, home, everything.
I was thinking to myself earlier if he really loved me truly a road Attenyion hell pondering but, if he did, why or how could he??? Keep writing it helps, also, do not let Mr MM suck the life out of you, the best revenge is a good life. I assure you, I am not. Been there Naughty lady wants sex Warragul-Drouin Victoria soooo done that!
My MM left his wife…. It was more trouble than the actual affair. Loooong story, lol. We give our hearts so freely to men who do not deserve them…. Be your own best friend. What would you tell your best girlfriend to do in this situation????? That is what you absolutely MUST do for yourself. They use us for what they can get and when we get smart enough to start asking questions, they are all to ready to walk away! Nothing new there. I wish all good things and most of all, peace to everyone reading or posting to this forum.
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We get together, go on dates, get intimate, etc. She once said were almost together- whatever that means. I had to travel for work for 3 months at the end of last year- we grew apart. She interpreted that as a lack of interest and started dating another guy but kept this secret from me I knew something was up. She also said I gave off a friend vibe. Yet, for the next days, she texted me constantly, inviting me to do things, etc. Its been a horrible last few days but so far, no contact.
However, the real question doing forward is what to do now. Hello Adam, Thanks for your comment on my blog how to make a woman want you sexually.
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